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photo: Gia Canali
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I photographed a bat mitzvah a few weeks ago. This is not something I get to do very often, but I always relish the chance. Bar and bat mitzvahs are so fun, unabashedly celebratory, and I think that age 13 is just about the perfect time to remind a young adult that of the love and support of family and community. The clients for this bat mitzvah were particularly wonderful and I could tell from the first moment I met them last summer how much they loved their daughter and wanted this bat mitzvah to be a really affirming expression of that love.
The party was exhilarating—a whirlwind, really—and at the end of the night, after all the guests had gone home and I had packed up most of the cameras, I went to say good night to the bat mitzvah girl and her parents. Her father began to tell me how people had complained to him before the bat mitzvah, “it’s so much money to spend” and “it’s just a party” and “you’ll never remember it.” He continued on to tell me how happy he was with how the party turned out,¹ detailing how meaningful it was that his people had come all over the world for this party and he concluded, “you know, I think we will remember it.”
And something clicked.
He had paid the money and thrown himself headlong into the planning of this event not just for the daughter he and his wife love so much, for her birthday party or to honor and welcome her into a tradition, not even for the guests to have an incredible experience (which they certainly did), but so that he and his wife could have the privilege of gathering their people. From all over the world. Into one room.
What good sense. What clarity. No one has ever articulated the why of a celebration so well to me. (Also maybe it’s harder to see with weddings, perhaps because we kind of hope it’s really about ourselves when we get married). You gather your people. You gather your people at these singular moments in your life for the joy of being together, all together, all at once.
So often my wedding clients talk about how incredible and humbling and overwhelming it is to see their people all together. One of the keenest memories of my own wedding is turning around during the ceremony and seeing the faces of my loved ones all together. I think I’ve talked about that here on the blog before. But we don’t always or easily anticipate that, plan for it in the planning of the wedding.
I’ve seen some pretty crummy comments around the web, even here on this blog, about how much money people spend on their weddings. Although there are lots of reasons for not spending money on a wedding (or anything else), folks might be missing the point. It’s not about a dollar amount. It’s about why whatever money people choose to spend is worth it to them.
photo: Gia Canali
¹ Let me just interject that it was one for the books as far as these things go.
I think we (the wedding-ready world) find it easy to mistake event design for a purely visual pursuit. We think of the photographs. In fact, good event design goes far beyond that, into designing space and experience, which is why I think Amy’s background in architectural design (which is all about human experience in/of space) is a perfect foundation for putting together fantastic weddings and events … including her own.
And not every bride is so lucky to get to bounce ideas off haute planner Yifat Oren, but Amy, who was living in LA and working with Yifat (before her wedding and before she and Osamu moved to San Francisco) got that rare privilege. Here’s what Amy has to say:
“Even though I plan weddings all the time, it was tough planning my own wedding by myself. At the time, I lived in LA and all my family and almost all of my friends were on the East Coast. So I didn’t have my mom and a bunch of girl friends with me like an episode of “Say Yes to the Dress.” … As much as I missed having friends and family to help, the good thing was that I was plugged into the event scene. Having worked at Yifat Oren & Associates, a top event production company, made things easier. Especially since Yifat and my former co-worker Stefanie Cove were really gracious with helping out. I don’t think Stefanie sat down at all during the wedding – she was making sure everything ran smoothly so I wouldn’t have to worry!”
{as always, click any image for a closer look!}
I asked Amy about design aesthetic (because when you’re on the inside of the wedding industry, knowing every cool detail, trend, etc., before it even hits is not necessarily an advantage) and DIY items and here is what she said:
“Most of the wedding was actually DIY, but I really didn’t want the wedding to look like it. I think I was able to successfully pull that off because I have a strong artistic/design background (I draw, paint, love all things crafty, studied architecture, etc) and love the challenge of doing things myself. I really wanted it to look refined, but in a very natural and laid back way.
“The ceremony “ring of succulents” was DIY – I went to a nursery and picked out about 50 potted succulents, then had my brothers dig them up slice off the roots (they somehow survived afterwards though!). The wrought-iron candleholders on the table were all borrowed from a florist (GD Designers) and I purchased all the pillar candles, so friends helped set them up on the day-of. The bar was DIY – I used scrap fabric to cover rental tables and lit it from behind. All the paper products were DIY (the “time capsule” notes, escort cards, menus, etc), though my friend Jennifer Parsons of Tiny Pine Press was incredibly sweet and helped me letterpress. Oh yes, and I did my own makeup in the upstairs bathroom because I always find that I look like a strange and different person when my makeup is done for me.”
And on the choice of SmogShoppe for their venue:
“‘I’m a pretty choosy person, and I really wanted to find the ideal venue for us: something non-traditional but unexpectedly beautiful, with a bit of quirkiness. I scoured places in Boston (where we went to college), Connecticut (where Osamu grew up), DC (where I grew up), and LA (where we lived). The SmogShoppe really spoke to both of us as a place we could see ourselves getting married and also having a great party. I also loved that the building is LEED certified – as someone who cares about architecture and sustainability, it seemed perfect!”
(Amy is a LEED certified professional!)
Below: a quiet first sight moment and the ceremony, which I absolutely loved for its thoughtfulness. The “time capsule” they made along with their guests was really unique, but it was traditional to them. They had a history of making time capsules. Which reminds me: I always think it’s very meaningful to incorporate your history as a couple into your wedding ceremony. Your wedding guests are your community (the group of people who uphold you when marriage is hard work!), and hearing your history vests them in your love and in your sticking-together.
I love that Amy used one of my photographs as part of the decor (see the projection!). It’s from {this} magical backyard wedding by Yifat Oren & Associates, where she and I worked together for the first time. I also really like the rolling work table as an escort card table, and not just because I love any furniture on wheels. Though I do have fantasies of having my entire studio on casters …
A closer look at the table settings, with the warm glow of candles, a few scattered succulents, and breadsticks – ready for a family style dinner!
Her take on why the details are important is pretty fantastic, too. She says that getting caught up in the small decor details is a good thing, at least in part, because “details add a layer of thoughtfulness.“ But she cautions:
“I think it’s good to realize that not all the details will stand out, so maybe concentrate your effort (and resources) into a few of them. For example, I wanted to have 2 huge vine-plants on the bar. The reception space was this cavernous industrial loft with some big hanging plants, so I thought it would be interesting to mimic that on the bar. I went to the nursery a few days before the wedding, transferred these massive plants into tall containers (not before sawing them in half to make them fit), and then carefully transported the soil-filled containers in the car. They were big, but not big enough to make a huge impact like I wanted, so I think the effort would have been better spent elsewhere.
The mood of a wedding is really the most memorable part of it – so I think all the candles, the firepit in our outdoor lounge, the mellow 90s throwback music, and the delicious blackberry cocktails had more to do with creating an alluring mood than the vine-plants.”
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photos: Gia Canali; sources & shout-outs:: planning & design, Amy Kaneko Events (the bride); venue: SmogShoppe; personal flowers, GD Designers; officiant: the author Vasugi Ganeshananthan (bride’s friend); bride’s dress: J Crew “Orion” dress; groom’s suit, Hugo Boss; bride’s hair, Salon DNA; caterer, Auntie Em’s Kitchen; ceremony music: Espi Music; reception music: DJ Crash via dubgypsy . With thanks to Yifat Oren, Stefanie Cove, and Jennifer Parsons (Tiny Pine Press!).
Happy Valentine’s from all of us here at Gia Canali Photography! I hope you and your beloved are cozy together today.
photos: Gia Canali
We’ve got celebrity wedding planner, Yifat Oren, back with us today, offering one more expert wedding planning tip and it’s an especially good one to heed:
“There’s a whole art to the pacing of a party and the energy of a party.”
“If you create too many lulls, your reception will not be as great as it could be. Waiting in between courses too long without giving guests something to do – like geting them up and dancing or listening to toasts – can really suck the life out of a party. When creating your timeline, pay special consideration to timing. A good rule of thumb is to serve a course and then have a couple of toasts. After the toasts, clear the course and either get your guests up for some dancing or come out with the next course immediately. For all this to run smoothly, your caterer/banquet captain at a hotel and band leader must work closely together with a well-thought-out timeline. Ideally, you would also have someone there on the day of the wedding to manage this process and be the liaison.”
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Thinking about the flow of your party when you create your timeline is essential, particularly in considering your guests. But a well-thought-out timeline won’t help you if you don’t stick to it (or, at least, as much as is up to you). I’m not saying, don’t let yourselves be spontaneous. I’m saying: plan for the experience you want to have and share with your guests and then have it (don’t just think it’ll happen). Your wedding crew will be busy doing the best job they can to realize that dream wedding day for you. Poor planning and big deviations can impact what they can do for you and can halt the party you’ve hoped for and imagined. Plus, a lively party renders much better on film. Thanks (again!), Yifat.
photo: Gia Canali
Yifat Oren has spent the last dozen years planning weddings and parties for some of the most discerning folks in Hollywood. When asked about her work, Yifat says, “I love what I do because I love what goes into weddings: design and décor, food and wine, fine papers, entertainment, and even the creativity that goes into executing it all flawlessly. I think the best weddings I do are a great collaboration between the clients and myself—that kind of collaboration breeds the most creative, trend-setting results.”
Those clients are high-powered and high-profile, everyone from Mariska Hargitay & Peter Hermann and Christine & Kevin Costner, to a host of Hollywood producers and business moguls. And while a lot of what these folks do for their weddings seems (or is!) totally unattainable for most of us, some of the most important and impactful aspects of planning a fantastic wedding translate perfectly to diy (or do-it-with-a-little-help) wedding planning. You don’t necessarily need more money or a bigger wedding budget; you just need a little forethought.
Consider The Guest Experience:
“Be thoughtful and cover your bases. When I’m planning a wedding, I walk through the entire event ahead of time, as if I am a guest. I imagine, for instance, “I just got off the shuttle. I left my hotel room an hour ago. I’m probably thirsty and I need shade because it’s hot. So we would serve cold beverages as soon as people get off the shuttle to quench their thirst and either a canopy or some market umbrellas for shade. The grass is tricky to walk on because ladies’ heels will sink. So we put out ‘heel savers’ … and so on, throughout the rest of the party, ending with a heater near the valet station, to be sure your guests aren’t freezing as they wait for their vehicles.”
Here are a few specific areas you can consider:
1. Be thoughtful about parking.
If you’re not doing a valet, it’s okay—just make sure there’s plenty of parking so your guests don’t have to walk too far or fight for spots.”
2. Consider the weather.
If there’s sun in everybody’s eyes during the ceremony, it’s awful. So offer some parasols or change the direction of the ceremony if possible. It’s nice to let people know, especially the ladies, what they can expect in terms of weather and terrain for the wedding day. If they’ll need to wear wedges, let them know. If it’s going to be cool during the evening but hot during the day, they might not think to bring wraps, so let them know ahead of time or provide them yourself.”
3. Consider the general appeal of the food.
You can be a total foodie, but if you want to serve something that’s wild and out there, do it as one of six appetizers, not as the main entreé that comes out for dinner.”
4. Consider your bridesmaids and groomsmen.
Usually they have to be there hours ahead of time. Make sure there are cold drinks for them, somewhere for them to hang their coats and stash their stuff, somewhere to sit down, and some shade, especially in the summer.”
5. Consider the bathrooms.
Have someone checking the bathrooms throughout the night. Make sure they are clean, well-stocked, and that the plumbing is working. We like to set out nice hand-towels, not linen ones, but nice linen-like paper ones. We also leave things your guests might need in the bathroom—a nail file, clear nail polish, extra deodorant, nice soap, lotion, safety pins, a mini sewing kit, and feminine hygiene products.”
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I think that we (the wedding-ready universe) spend a lot of time thinking about who to invite and about hiring services, but not so much time about the experience of those services for ourselves and our invited guests. Hiring services is not the same thing as creating an experience. These tips are really helpful in taking diy wedding planning that one very important step further—having bathrooms at your venue, for instance, isn’t the same thing as having continually clean, well-stocked bathrooms for you and your guests all night long. Small but important details can be not-thought-of at all. Of course, in a world where we all had business-mogul-sized wedding budgets, we’d want to hire an experienced and expert wedding planner to think of all these things for us (because, believe me, Yifat thinks of everything). Check back tomorrow for part two. Thanks, Yifat!
photo: Gia Canali
We love wedding toasts! For one thing, hearing how other folks love the bride and groom makes us—and everybody at a wedding, I think—adore the bride and groom even more. And the photographs of the bride and groom and the guests reacting to toasts can be so fun (though, in fact, that could go either way if the toasts are deadly-long or if there are too many of them, come to think of it).
Somehow, toasts are more-often-than-not overlooked in the orchestration and choreography of the wedding day—but they’re important because the toasts themselves can be very meaningful and the photos do actually sometimes make it into the finished wedding album. So, naturally, you want the toasting photos to be their best selves. (And don’t think that this magically won’t happen to you on your wedding day … )
Here are a few easy tips for setting yourself up to have picture perfect toasts:
- Have the speaker stand somewhere with a nice background and nice light, even if that spot is right at his or her dinner table. Ample ambient light is the best kind.
- Please don’t put your toaster in front of an EXIT sign. (This is just an expansion of point #1, I suppose).
- Make sure your photographer is present. If you have a planner, he or she can help with this. If you are diy-planning, you’ll need to keep an eye on this yourself. Although your photographer may stick close by your side the entire rest of the day, during dinner time, she could be off taking photographs in another part of the event, or trying to take a quick dinner break. If unscheduled or unannounced toasts happen, she can miss them.
- Toasts REALLY TRULY need to be short and sweet. Haute wedding planner, Yifat Oren, notes,”it’s a toast, not a roast. Toasts should be short and sweet and moving and anecdotal. The longest amount of time for any one toast should be seven minutes, but preferably no longer than five. You can say a lot in seven minutes.” And, “if you’re planning to have 35 minutes of toasts, don’t do it all at once.” It’s hard for the guests to sit through a bunch of long toasts (read: boring) and can bring the whole party to a halt. If someone really wants to give a long toast or say something much more expansive to or about you and your beloved, the rehearsal dinner might afford a better and more intimate opportunity for that kind of thing.
Check back tomorrow for an interview with Yifat, full of tips from celebrity weddings that are applicable to weddings on any budget.
photographs: Gia Canali
We all know it’s important to dance with your beloved. But don’t forget your friends! Not only does it make for good photos, it makes for good memories.
photo: Gia Canali
